Don’t Tell Anybody, Okay?

Have you ever been approached by someone in your work environment that opened the conversation with these words, "Hey, I need to tell you something but don't tell anybody okay?"

This should be an immediate warning sign to you that someone is trying to drag you into the rumor mill and gossip group of negativity. Stay away from these types of conversation. Why?

It Will Be Repeated


Years ago, a senior executive shared some advice with me about communication. "Never say anything to anyone that you don't want to be repeated." This is great advice for anyone in business. You put yourself at risk the very minute you participate in the "hush toned" conversations in your work place.Why? People will always repeat what was said, who it was said by, and I promise you that as conversations are recycled they always change.



Protect your reputation by never being part of the problem. Don't invite or accept an invitation to participate in the loop of the loser. Complaining, griping, and criticizing the company and your peers will never help you grow within an organization. Winners simply don't have time for this destructive practice as they are too busy pursuing their goals and dreams. Forge relationships, don't tear them down.

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.
— Eleanor Roosevelt


When you talk about others behind their back you will destroy trust. Trust building and likability are two of the competencies you must master to win at the highest level. Do not associate with anyone who wants to infect your mind with negativity. Build trust by being a team builder and promoter of others good attributes.

Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.

Make a difference today.

— Paul

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